We don't have to look too many places to see the voices of the frustrated and ill tempered. But let me tell you what has worked for me to maintain my peace in a world full of "not enough". The older I get the more I realize living in someone else's façade of life won't and will never save me.
Determine what outlets you allow as influencers
How many people do you call before talking to God? Not only how many, who are they? Will they provide the type of counsel you need to conquer the issue at hand or will they sit down and eat ice cream with you? Don't get me wrong, we've all had sessions of B̶e̶n̶ ̶&̶ ̶J̶e̶r̶r̶y̶'̶s̶ Great Value (be real, when you're sad it don't matter what kind it is) with friends. All things have their place, but guard your gates. Be sure the ones that are there with you have earned their stripes to stay.
1 Corinthians 15:33 - Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."
Social media is a blessing and a curse. It allows us to stay connected across the globe, but serves as a crutch for self-gratification and meaningless comparisons. It's okay to take a break from your news feed. Just go in your 'Settings' on your phone to look at the breakdown of what drains your battery daily. I guarantee the dysfunction you crave to ingest 24/7 serves as the same disconnect you have with something going on in your life. Shift your focus and watch your breakthroughs happen. God can't deal with the distracted or those easily fooled.
Mark 13:33 - Be on guard! Be alert! You do not know when that time will come.
Breathe!! Everything is not your battle to fight nor is it intended to be. It's great to have a vetted interest in seeing something to its end but understand everything cannot be readily or easily resolved.
Proverbs 3:5 - Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
Create your own peace
Listen, if I haven't learned anything in the past year and a half I've learned this - pursue your peace like your life depends on it! I'll go in my room, light my aromatherapy candle and color on the floor like I'm 5. I have zero shame about it. Bubble baths with a great book, turning your house into a karaoke bar or just sitting in complete silence will help you unwind from the day. A therapy session or three, whatever you have to do to maintain. Take time for yourself and don't be skimp about it. In order to be available to others you have to unwind from the day to day grind.
2 Thessalonians 3:16 - Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.
Stop looking at what everybody else is doing or involved in. Is it great to admire what others are accomplishing? Absolutely - but don't let admiration turn into annoyance. Success is relative and we all are at different stages in life that require different levels of effort. As a millennial, we often times take on pressures that God never intended us to have. Be true to who you are. God thought you were dope enough to have only one of you; remember that.
Proverbs 16:3 - Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans.
Mirror what you would like to see in the world
We can name off a list of what's wrong, but do we really take the time to evaluate how we can be the change we wish to see?
John 14:1 - Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me.
Place your hope in who really is ALWAYS in control
I know how easy it is to become overwhelmed with the stressors of life..but I also know God is THE first and last. There's not one person on Earth that knows your beginning AND end - with everything in between. Just because the outcome that you desire hasn't manifested doesn’t mean God doesn’t know what He's doing. I'm not saying sit back and watch! I'm saying be diligent in your endeavors and watch the fruit unfold.
Psalm 147:11 - The Lord delights in those who fear him, who put their hope in his unfailing love.
Release over exerted pressures you've placed on yourself…and others
Number. One. Killer. Of. All. Time. Setting goals and creating plans to get there are great and shows you have the ability to plan for what's ahead. BUT, setting these unrealistic expectations for yourself and others just leaves you bitter and resentful. It’s counterproductive and one of the quickest ways to deter what God truly has for you.
Luke 21:34 - Be careful, or your hearts will be weighed down with carousing, drunkenness and the anxieties of life, and that day will close on you suddenly like a trap.
Yeah, I said it. Purge. Get rid of the things and people that may stir up your feelings of unworthiness and a constant state of disgruntlement. You already knew that, but I'm telling you since it's still a few things you oddly believe are contributing to your future when it’s just a detour that's turned into a ditch hemming you up from your destiny..*sips tea*
1 Corinthians 10:13 - No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
Stop sweating the small stuff
You are going to legit end up s̶l̶o̶w̶l̶y̶ killing yourself thinking every comment, situation or issue needs a response from you. If you die (I don't want you to, but follow the example) your job will send your people flowers and replace you. If you are going tit for tat on someone about a major issue on social media how does that scream reform? Somebody cut you off in traffic? I know, this pisses me off too; be nimble! You know how many unwarranted changes we'll have in the course of our lives? Save your edges girl, it ain't worth it. Men, y'all save them hairlines - we don’t like man weaves or Beijing hair color. :)
Luke 10:41 - "Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed - or indeed only one."
Save someone else along the way
Our peers and the next generation of kids need our help y'all. What we are learning can't just be self-contained. Pour into someone else so God can continue to pour into you.
Luke 6:38 - Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
DECOMPRESS! Stop turning left and right. Look ahead to see what God has destined for you. Even if you don't know what the journey entails it's much better than what we could ever create.
Jeremiah 29:11 - For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Nothing is wrong, and that's okay. Don't get wrapped up in not having any feeling (guilt specifically) toward something that is out of your realm of control. Be STILL and KNOW..learn how to be CONTENT in ALL things. In a world of constant change God got us; He always will.